When I was a pre-teen I had some trouble finding happy. Like most people my age, I hated the world. I was pissed all the time. Many times I let my attitude and anger take over my life. One day, my dad told me “you determine your own happiness”. At my young age I didn’t fully understand what he meant. I brushed it off to him being frustrated with me and coming up with whatever he thought would make me feel better. Now, at 24, I truly understand the weight of those words.
We do in fact, determine our own happiness. We have power over our emotions and ultimately, we get to decide when we are ready to be happy. I talked before about forgiveness and how not forgiving can make you even more sad. In turn, forgiving can create new freedom in your life. Freedom begets happiness. Happiness brings peace.
It took me a while to find what truly makes me happy. Lots of talks with God, praying, slowing down, sitting down doing nothing, and ultimately, realizing that I was a co-star in my life. A lot of people get to this point, probably more than once.
If you find yourself feeling unhappy, find some quiet time alone. Go offline, turn off your phone, turn off the tv, and just be with yourself. Think about the things that put you in a good mood. And then do it. Go find your happy. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Don’t be afraid to forgive. Don’t be afraid to let go. We all deserve happiness.
Call me cheesy, but this song still makes me happy. Love these kids from Detroit!