Pandora always seems to get me into my feelings. Naturally, when this song popped up my eyes started to water, my heart dropped to the pit of my stomach, and I squeezed my eyes tight. I’ve been rejected before, so I felt ever part of his pain. It sucks!
In this song, it seems like he is talking about a friend, who does love him, but not romantically. No, it is NOT about the friend zone (that’s not a real thing by the way). It’s about friendship love growing into romantic love. While this has mainly been the opposite for me, it made me wonder. If you fall in love with a friend should you tell them? Is it worth the risk? As a lover of romantic comedies, I see it ALL THE TIME. And I have seen it in real life a few times too. Some even believe that your partner should be your best friend first. I think it can have some good and some bad.
Here are some possible PROS:
1. You know the person well.
You know their bad, good, and amazing. Most times, you know how they are in relationships based on long conversations. If they keep you around as a friend, you must be impressive to them in some capacity. If it’s a best friend, you know their family, likes, dislikes, reactions, weaknesses, and probably much more.
2. They know you.
They know as much about you as you know about them. I think it’s safe to say, they know all much or in some cases more, than number 1. There is nothing more special than a person that gets you, the real you. Not the “let me be as perfect as possible in the beginning” you.
3. You have probably been through a difficult time together.
Support, especially during a difficult time, is essential for a relationship. We all deserve partners that will intercede for us, comfort us, empathize with us, and offer support. Chances are, your best friend has done that for you, probably more than once. That type of support builds a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
4. They know things about you that others don’t, and love you anyway.
We have all told our best friends something that might give others pause. It has to be nice to have a partner that knows your secrets before entering a relationship and doesn’t judge you.
5. The awkward “getting to know you” stage is over.
Am I the only one who finds first dates and getting to know someone awkward? Personally, I think it’s a lot easier when you already know the person. Friendship allows us to be our natural selves, most times we aren’t trying to impress anyone. We are just trying to have a good time. I’d want to fall in love with a friend for this sole reason…lol (but I’m serious…).
There can also be some CONS:
1. The friendship might be ruined.
What if it’s a situation where they don’t love you in a romantic way? Where do you go from there? Hurt egos and feelings ruin friendships everyday, and when we add in a vulnerable emotion like love, it’s so scary I don’t want to think about it. Is it possible to stay friends without rejection and embarrassment blaring in your face?
2. They might be in a relationship.
They might really care for their partner and love you as well. Does that mean they drop this person they love for you? Are you cool with them cheating? I’ve watched Something Borrowed enough times to know this doesn’t always turn out well. This is especially if you are close with their partner, that sounds like a big mess.
3. What if you are in a relationship?
Are you supposed to just drop your partner? It may end up hurting them worse than cheating. This is different from cheating because having a close relationship with this person is totally acceptable. Will your friend look at you differently now? Like, if it came down to it, would they trust you?
4. They know all your “not so good” stuff.
This was a pro, but could the con could be that they know you too well. I can just imagine someone bringing up something their best-partner-friend did back in freshman year or something. Even sexual partners aren’t left up to the imagination. They know everything before you get a chance to tell them…eek!
5. They don’t love you back.
And now you feel like Sam Smith…or Beyonce on Best Thing You Never Had.
Please leave comments below, and tell me what you think. I’m legit interested!
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