As I grow as a speaker, and honestly as an adult women, I realize that sometimes what I am saying doesn’t reflect how I really feel. There have been many times that I wanted to say something, but minimizers and exaggerators take the depth away from what I’m saying. But, no more. Here are a few words and phrases I’m working on removing from my vocabulary.
More than I want to admit, I find myself saying just a lot. Recently I was telling someone a price for something and I assumed they wouldn’t want to pay. Instead of confidently saying the price, I added just to minimize it. By minimizing it, they thought the price was up for negotiation, and it wasn’t.
There is nothing wrong with thinking, but when you know something is fact, you don’t have to make a caveat. The best speakers say everything with confident. Instead of saying “I think”, I’ve been working on using more direct language. On a recent interview I said “I think” so many times it was embarrassing. Despite being highly educated on the subject, I put “I think” in front of facts. Even in personal situations, it is easy to insert “I think” before making an assumption about something. The more direct thing to do would be to
Only is a lot like just. Recently someone asked me about my educational background and I said “I only have a Bachelors degree”. I straight minimized my hard work. Only has got to go.
I’m not talking about “I love” in a traditional sense, I’m talking about liking something and feeling the need to put emphasis on it. “I love that place”, “I love that show”, “I love that food”, I place the word love in places it really doesn’t belong. Instead of saying “I love…”, I’ve replaced it with phrases like ” I enjoy”, “One of my favorites”, and “I’m passionate about”. The main reason I am working to remove “I love” is because of a sermon I heard. My pastor said, we often use the word love to describe how we feel about material things, but how often do we show that same love to others.
I stopped saying “sorry” when I am apologizing for something a while ago, but I find myself saying “sorry” even if I’m not sorry. I say “sorry” for things that aren’t in my control, weren’t my fault, and have nothing to do with me. I won’t stop apologizing when it’s appropriate and I genuinely mean it, but if someone bumps me, I’m not saying sorry.
While I know I won’t completely remove them, checking myself will no doubt make me a more confident speaker. Do you have any you want/have removed?